Monday, August 6, 2012

Broken record

I wonder how long that expression will make any sense? 

But that is what I feel like.  I sat here trying to figure out a different way to title this post with the reason.  We're still waiting for answers.  STILL.  This is the 6th week.  It's seriously getting insane. 
We had 2 visits with the kids.  We are sure that we are ready for them, and that we could handle their needs.  They get along great with Kristopher, and the home visit went very well.  They fit right in and acted like this was home.  Responded to requests, calmed down when asked, and helped put stuff away like it was all part of their regular routine.  All 3 were highly upset when the visit was up, and it leaves Kristopher sitting here confused.  We have included him and shared as much info as we can with him to help him understand what is going on.  I think when they showed up though, he assumed they were not leaving anytime soon. 
As of last Wednesday's meeting, we were told answers would be made on Friday at the attorney meeting.  Something went wrong, and there was some issues, so the meeting was cut short.  They met again today.  There was another request for one more home visit.  We waited on standby all day for a time. At the end of the day, we got another email update that the meeting took place and the supervisor is waiting for the attorney to respond with a time that works for meeting again.  It had to be today or tomorrow. 
Wednesday is court.  Wednesday is when they will decide for sure, where these kids are being placed, so that the move can take place this weekend.  No matter where they go, they are being moved this weekend so they have the remaining 2 weeks of summer vacation to settle in at the new home, and prepare for school to start.  Since the meeting is Wednesday, I guess it will be Thursday till I actually hear what is going on for our end of things.

The connection we all felt with the girls makes me want to think that it will work out.  They fit well with our family, and we would not have to change our lifestyle much.  Obviously going from 1 to 3 is going to be an adjustment, and going away, doing stuff, etc will take a little more planning.  But, they are active, they are open to our activities, and they are high energy kids.  They will fit right in.  We opened our home to the sister, were more than fair with visitation and involvement.  The county workers all like us, our agency feels it's a great placement, and the county supervisor wants them here.  But somehow, the sister is still holding back.  I'm honestly  not sure what the issues were at the last meeting.  No one tells me what is causing all these delays. I don't even think our caseworker knows.  Something is being left out and it makes me feel uneasy.

My gut feeling says that this is not going to work out.  That we have been strung along for the past 6 weeks, and they are not going to choose us.  Which really makes me mad in so many ways.  Not only for the time lost, and the false hope where I was stupid and bought some girly stuff.  But for the fact that the kids were all involved, met several times, had discussed coming here, and plans we have for the fall.  They want to be here.  We want them to be here.  They can't stay where they are.  It seems so simple but yet annoyingly held back. 

I'm suppose to get more updates tomorrow.  If they actually follow through and show up for another meeting, then I'll assume we're #1 choice.  I guess I should pry for some real answers.  This whole process has cost a lot of time and money in preparing.  And I can't help but wonder how many cases we lost out on, how many kids got split up and seperated, all because we're in limbo with these who are not really an emergency type of case.

So yes....We are still waiting.  And I'm sure I'll still be waiting for the rest of the week.  It's beginning to be like some sick joke.

1 comment:

  1. Well, I hope the news was good and either way, you all are out of limbo.

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