More complaining

It's not been brought up on here because people's opinions can be rude on weird situations but the hormones are crazy for whatever reason this week and I'm whiney.
We live with my parents. Not because we are poor and deadbeats like some people in our families, but because with the economy and everything it made a lot of sense. My parents had talked about selling their house and I couldn't stand to let it happen because I love this place. But at the same time, we honestly did not feel comfortable with putting ourselves in that kind of strain right now so we agreed to come home and help with things about 2 yrs ago now.
And before everyone thinks what a crazy situation, especially with our journey with everything, it's not that bad. The house is massively huge. There is 4 huge bedrooms and almost 3 bathrooms. Last year we built on to make an area for my parents so they don't have to continue to do the steps and are almost done with a new bathroom and bedroom downstairs for them. Then we only share the kitchen. It works out well for everyone and really helps them out because my dad works construction and has been on partial layoff since the housing market fell. And last winter he was off for at least 3 months.
So we're still fixing up a lot to make this an easier permanent arrangement. It is working out well and while it won't be forever, it is going to be at least for a few more years till things stable back out. And maybe it will be them who moves on. I really like this place and it's perfect for us. Not so much them as they get older because the steps and the size.
We also wanted to be out of the city life and back in the country with K getting older. This is a better school district and he can play outside without having other weird kids trying to steal his stuff. So while we are here, we definitely have more finances because of the distance, older house, more expensive heat, etc. But it's what we want so it balances out.
The only reason this is brought up is because of a huge issue going on with the inlaws about this. Yesterday I got into a wonderful phone war with my sister in law about how we can't possibly understand the stress of the economy with how we have everything so easy (ha i wish) and that their parents are struggling and yet we sit here doing everything for my parents. It goes back and forth between being accused of not paying anything on our own, and then goes to we pay everything for them as well. Which is not true at all. We pay rent, we spilt everything else house wise. We buy our own food. We still have our own bills. It does cost more to live here than when we lived in our old place but like I said, it's where we want to be. I'm happier, K is happier and I even think my husband is happier. I may have to take care of more since I'm the only one not working, but I like to cook and I'm kinda ocd and like to clean.
So anyway, I'm just clearing my mind. I'm so sick of the negative attitudes from people about this. No one pays for our stuff, no one buys our food, we're not living on welfare like a lot of family is and my husband works and has a great job. So until those people fix their issues, there is no reason for them to butt into my life. Actually, until they start paying for my stuff, they have no opinion on it. End of story.