Ready to fight

*UPDATE*
Got my return call and the guidance councilor will work with him one on one to help him understand it better.  And we're going to make a ton of flashcards to use here since he's really into stuff like that.  AND they are going to make the teacher aware not to give any NEW info till he has a chance to sit down with someone and understand it.  Progress....


ORIGINAL POST
Of course, I suck at posting regularly again.  Things have been busy, lots we're preparing for and special secret stuff in the works for an exciting future.  More on that another time.

I thought I'd wait a day or 2 to post about this, and allow myself time to calm down, but it's not working well.  So maybe if I clear my mind on here, I'll settle down before the phone call comes. 

As I posted before, Kristopher was tested for gifted this year.  His score was very close to the min needed to get extra classes and support, but the district is super strict about that.  They tried the extra enrichment, but took away his only social time and free play time in the day.  So he got upset and didn't want to do any of it.  Fought them every step of the way and hated going to school till I finally said to just stop trying the extra stuff.  Since then, he's great about going, and is thriving.  Until last week.  He started acting out again, and just all around frustrated here at home.  Friday he got in trouble for talking repeatedly when he wasn't suppose to, and attitude again about not wanting to be there. 
He's pasted his 1st grade math in around November.  They up'd him to 2nd grade addition and subtraction, and he passed that before Christmas.  Now, he's moved up to multiplication.  He was so excited.  The way they test and move up is by 1-1:30 min timed tests.  So, he gets the advanced tests during that time, but group time is strictly on 1st grade work.  He passes everything with flying colors from that, and was doing great on the tests till the multiply work came out.  He barely gets anything correct on the tests.  Which makes him very upset.  He use to turn his tests over and draw while waiting, and now he scribbles and writes "Did not pass!!!" and puts x's all over the paper.  And you can tell he's trying to chissel the words down because it presses thru and is very dark. 
So, I sat and calmly tried working with him.  He's on 10 x whatever, 20 x whatever, etc.  I explained it's just like it is without the zeros, and for the answer he just adds whatever zero's are there.  He got the 10 x1, 10x2, but then when he got to 10 x 10, he got very upset to learn it was not 10.  So I calmly explained it again, making it fun and no pressure.  He learns very quick and got that concept fast.  But then we get to 20's and he gets super upset again and starts crying when I say an answer is not correct and try to help him again.  He just gives up.  He says he wants to go back to the 1st grade stuff so he can get his tests right again and get new flash cards.  I asked him if they are talking about this with him at school and he says "no, i just get the tests at test time."  So in my head I am flipping out, swearing, wanting to kill, whatever.  They are giving him what he needs to push him, but they don't tell him a single thing about how to work at it?????  Seriously???  We asked him several times and he says all they do during group time is the normal work, and then boom, there's the random test that he has no idea.  And I'm stuck picking up the pieces here yet again, and working with him at home. 
Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with helping him from home.  But he should also be getting help with this at school.  Real instructions from his teacher.  That's why he's there isn't it?  So now he's having sleep issues and wants me to give him tons of worksheets to practice so he can pass.  He's constantly thinking about it and his "times" work. 

So, rather than even try with his regular teacher or the math teacher, I have a call in for the guidance councilor and I want freaking answers.  He has therapy tomorrow and I'm going to get her involved if I have to.  I just find it so frustrating that there are so many options for the kids that can get a real diagnosis, and those that are right on for the gifted program, but give them a kid with anxiety and that's not a real enough condition to give him a little extra support or thought.  If this drama does not get better, I swear I will pull him out and we will just do the cyber schooling that's offered here.  I'm not going to have him feeling like he's crap just because someone doesn't want to make time for him.  If I'm going to be doing all the work, there is no point in the rushing around we do to get him to and from school anymore.  I'm sick of it. 

So now we wait.  I don't know how long it will take for the call back.  I think they are tired of my whining.  I'm trying to be nice, but it's going to get ugly real soon.