We got the most shocking news this week. Ever. In 6-8 weeks, I'll be watching another newborn. My friend discovered she was pregnant. While on the pill which was taken faithfully. Who also has a ton of other issues like me. And the kicker is, she's due in less than 3 weeks. Totally blew us all away. So, it looks like I'll be getting a 4-6 week vacation without much notice shortly. I was along during her u/s, and the baby is already head down. The night before she demanded an u/s, she had sharp pains and it appears that was because he dropped. Oh yes, it's another boy. Anyway, once the pain eased, she felt kicking. Till then, she didn't feel anything. So of course everyone is worried because she took the pill up till finding out. Had no idea. But, he's already measuring over 7lbs. Looks chunky and everything that was easily able to be measured, looked right on. Completely amazing. And as much as I feel it's not fair, and I don't understand how or why this happens, I feel so special that I was able to go along and to witness that. Ultrasounds are amazing. I'm going to focus on the fact that I'll soon get a chance to snuggle and experience the baby stage again, 10-12 hrs a day, but still sleep all night. That's my positive outlook.
Also this week, my mom had a total hysterectomy. It's been a long time coming and they finally agreed to just take it all rather than do the painful proceedures every 6 months when she would get an abnormal pap back. So, Thursday they did all that. It took double the time they expected because she had a previous csection, plus she had several other surgeries so there was a lot of scar tissue. We were told everything looks normal shaped, and sizes and we should not have to worry about cancer. She was pretty rough the night it happened, and they didn't get her up and walking till the next morning. Kristopher and I went and spent the day there yesterday and lucked out and they let us bring her home before supper. I was extra nice and drove past my brother's house so they could come out and say hi, and she was able to see the kids for a few minutes. I only did that because it meant so much to her, and everything she was through. It was actually the first I had seen or talked to him since early July last year, and I will be more than happy to let it be another year or 2 to see them again. Harsh, but I can't handle that kind of lifestyle and it being exposed to my child. Plus, they now have a 2 month old, 14 month old and 2 yr old. It's too much to handle to be around given their lifestyle.
Anyway, I feel after all I've done this week, I totally deserve daughter & friend of a lifetime award. I've sucked up all my own feelings and done above and beyond for both this week. And I have not broken down or anything yet. Maybe I'm just past all that.
So, my hope for this new baby, is that it either decides to come on it's due date, or very shortly after it. I'm watching the other 2 for at least 3 days during/after delivery, and I have a very important and very long appt coming up on the 31st. And Kristopher's birthday is the 3rd and I really hope he doesn't end up having to share his b-day or that weekend. If he's going to be an only kid, I hope that at least his birthday's can be a big deal and extra special for him.
Also this week, my mom had a total hysterectomy. It's been a long time coming and they finally agreed to just take it all rather than do the painful proceedures every 6 months when she would get an abnormal pap back. So, Thursday they did all that. It took double the time they expected because she had a previous csection, plus she had several other surgeries so there was a lot of scar tissue. We were told everything looks normal shaped, and sizes and we should not have to worry about cancer. She was pretty rough the night it happened, and they didn't get her up and walking till the next morning. Kristopher and I went and spent the day there yesterday and lucked out and they let us bring her home before supper. I was extra nice and drove past my brother's house so they could come out and say hi, and she was able to see the kids for a few minutes. I only did that because it meant so much to her, and everything she was through. It was actually the first I had seen or talked to him since early July last year, and I will be more than happy to let it be another year or 2 to see them again. Harsh, but I can't handle that kind of lifestyle and it being exposed to my child. Plus, they now have a 2 month old, 14 month old and 2 yr old. It's too much to handle to be around given their lifestyle.
Anyway, I feel after all I've done this week, I totally deserve daughter & friend of a lifetime award. I've sucked up all my own feelings and done above and beyond for both this week. And I have not broken down or anything yet. Maybe I'm just past all that.
So, my hope for this new baby, is that it either decides to come on it's due date, or very shortly after it. I'm watching the other 2 for at least 3 days during/after delivery, and I have a very important and very long appt coming up on the 31st. And Kristopher's birthday is the 3rd and I really hope he doesn't end up having to share his b-day or that weekend. If he's going to be an only kid, I hope that at least his birthday's can be a big deal and extra special for him.
That's KRAZY! Freakin nuts. So she had no idea? I guess it happens....
ReplyDeleteYes, she is VERY lucky to have a nice, good, ACCOMMODATING babysitter like you. And I'd probably be the same as you in wanting K to not have to share his b-day.
What a bombshell.